I’m normally that friend that if you’re going through something, I’ll leave you alone about it. I don’t believe in forcing myself in places that I don’t belong. I always care deeply for my friends but I also want to respect others and their personal problems. If someone NEEDED me to know, they’d tell me right off the bat right?
Well, apparently I’m WRONG! I found myself one day breaking down the wall my friend built because I wouldn’t allow her to make me mind my business. “I love you and I NEED to know whats going on”. 2 of my closest friends did this to me recently. “So you think I’m going to sit here and let you figure it out on your own.?” Heckkkkk no!
When I first got married, the adults in my life kept quiet every time there was an issue with my husband and I. They said it wasn’t their place to involve themselves and when I think about it today, I get mad. You could have helped me be a better wife. You could have given me advice. Instead you left us behind to rot.
That memory is what drives me to drive my buddies crazy. I’ll ask my friend, “Why do you seem upset at your husband? What’s going on?”. “Ohhh nothing. I’ll get over it.”
No, you don’t need to just get over it. You don’t need to go through this alone. Let’s discuss. Let’s figure out a way to make it better.
Don’t use this method on people you barely know. This is useful for the strong friendships/ relationships in your life. Be mindful of the people who fight to know your business just to manipulate you. Those are not real friends. Make sure your friend has proven their loyalty and integrity before you decide to trust them with your life.
The main word here is accountability. If I had the solutions to your stress and the experience in your problem, I am completely accountable for the result of your battle. If you lose, I lose.
Eyes on the prize sister,
What’s the reason why?
You look left and there she is
your enemy passing by.
She’s smiling and showing
all her great plans.
Eyes on the prize sister.
It’s a trap, grab my hand.
I’ll help you through it.
Wont beat you to it.
I’ll be by your side.
Helping you to the prize.
Eyes on the prize sister.
What glitters isn’t gold.
Listen to me my friend,
I’ll push you to the goal.
I love you within
Eyes on the prize sister.
When you win, I win.
Story submitted by Joselyn W.
Four years ago I was going through a really hard time in my life. I made a decision without thinking it through but thought it was for the best.
That decision landed me behind bars for almost a year.
I was lost, confused and just didn’t know where to look. I was not going to church like I used to and I felt like God just gave up on me. The day of my sentencing I was able to go home and I had 3 months to surrender. I remember getting in my car and just yelling, crying wondering why! I knew that I did this to myself and didn’t think about anybody. I didn’t want to live anymore. I wanted to just go to a bridge and just jump. Nobody knew or understood the demon that I was fighting within.
One night I started to drive with no destination in mind and the devil was really attacking my spirit. I started to drive to the nearest bridge, thinking it would be the best thing to do. As I get closer to the bridge my phone rings it was my best friend. She just wanted to talk and I held every tear that I needed to so I wouldn’t give it away. She knew that I was going thru an emotional rollercoaster but she never knew how bad the thoughts that were going thru my mind were. As she was talking to me she started to tell me that everybody makes mistakes and we all learn from them. She said more words but she never knew or understood how she saved my life that day. It was God!
As my sentencing got closer, I remember hugging my son and just crying letting him know that mommy will be gone for a little while but that I will be back and he will be able to see me soon. We cried, hugged and said our I love you!
The day that I surrendered, I remember asking God to protect me. As I walked in and sat down I was surrounded by 4 walls. As I did my time God spoke to my heart and all I felt was peace. He let me see that some decisions in my life were not perfect but he was going to help me get thru them. He allowed me to see that the relationship that I was in at the time was not for me, and I let it go once I got home.
We all make mistakes. Some may be larger than others, but no matter what God will always be by our side. There are times when we feel like He stopped listening to us or that He doesn’t care, but He does. He will never leave our side no matter the disappointments that we provide to Him, He will always be there. He may allow us to fall at times but He will be by our side to pick us up. Lord knows that without the strength that He provided to me I may not be here today. He allows you to see the toxic people in your life and is up to you to let them go and learn from them!
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There is nothing like having a friend who continuously reminds you of who you are in Christ. There are times I dont even speak of any of my spiritual battles and I would receive a text with scripture or a picture message of an uplifting devotional from one of my friends.
Peter reminds me that this whole Christian thing is done successfully with the body of Christ. We need a constant reminder that God had the final word at The Cross and we don’t need to stress anymore.
My husband and I have been struggling lately with adjusting to my new job and the whole getting the kids ready, dinner, homework, cleaning, Church, kids ministry, and fitness classes that I forget what scripture says. Sometimes, my attitude doesn’t even match one of a true Christian but thank God I have friends who remind me of who I am in Chrsit.
I’ve been having stressful dreams and nightmares every night because I keep forgetting who to give my anxiety to. But praise God that with a simple text from a friend, I am reminded that I don’t need to have sleepless nights anymore. Thank You Lord for the friends you have given me, I wouldn’t trade them for the world.
2 Peter 1:11 And you will be given a very great welcome into the kingdom of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, a kingdom that never ends. 12 You already know these things. You are very strong in the truth you have. But I am always going to help you remember them.
It doesn’t matter how strong we think we are in faith. We always forget things which means we need a faithful reminder from someone that chooses to take time out of their day to love us. A friend in Christ.
I simply had the awesomest Mother’s Day weekend EVER! Food, NYC, Church, BBQ, 15 mile bike ride, and lots and lots of cuddling 😆😉 all coordinated by my sexy husband!
This is my lifestyle. Always trying something new, going to different places, meeting new people etc. This is how I choose to live and I won’t let any negativity stop me!
I want to say thank you to my husband for supporting the active, upbeat, artistic, awesome person that I am. I also want to thank my friends for being awesome too! 😘😘
Today, this sentence hit me. I heard it in a song many many times but today it stuck out the most. “Love like I’m not scared…”
I questioned, how can you be scared to love? Whoa, a bunch of personal scenarios came to mind.
Recently, I promised myself to never have a close friend again. I pledged to make Jesus my only BFF forever and always amen. Although that sounds ideal, it’s not correct to maintain a life in this way. We need friends to sharpen us spiritually. It is good to have a close friend that will correct us when we are wrong in a loving manner.
Because of my bitterness towards the friends I’ve had in the past, I’ve pushed away some amazing people. I’m going to try to live by this phrase and give new friends a chance. Also, I’m going to learn from the old ones. I’m going to love unconditionally. No matter the mistake, or hurt, or issue a good friend may cause to me or others, I’m still going to love and remain a friend. I’m not going to pretend to keep a civil friendship because we are brothers and sisters in Christ, that’s just a load of fecal matter. Jesus is the first to peep that hypocrisy and I’m not planning on living that way with anyone.
To my enemies, even if I’ve apologized for all my wrong doings towards you and you choose to hate me anyway, I’m still going to love you and think about all the good things we went through together. I’m not going to lie, I may think of some bad stuff. Thank God I have a good friend that loves me with flaws and all – that taught me something useful. “Replace a bad memory with a good one”. So I am.
God tells us to love anyway. Love without being scared of getting hurt. Love knowing that we can or will get hurt and its okay with us. Jesus loved us KNOWING we were going to hurt Him in return. He died on the cross KNOWING we were going to pay no mind to His death. If we are supposed to be like Christ, we should learn to love the same way.
I’m not letting my past experience ruin potential friendships. I’m going to love even if there is a possibility that the friend will abandon me. I’m going to love even if there is a possibility that this person is going to hurt me. I’m going to love like I’m not scared.