Learning to Spot Manipulators

The more I try to learn on the topic of manipulation, the more sad I become. I’m almost done listening to a book called “Manipulation. Learning to Spot Manipulative People – Improve Emotional Intelligence Against Persuasion Tactics” by Jeff Tierney. The Author covers many topics including the tactics used by savvy manipulators. What makes me sad is that I’m realizing how many times per day someone attempts to manipulate me. Whats more sad is that these people don’t even know they are doing it.

Are we so prone to get our way that we don’t realize we are being shady to the people that we love? If I’m going to learn something reading this book, I’m choosing to learn on finding way NOT to manipulate people. I find it more stressing to spend my days trying to spot said persuasion tactics. Instead, I plan on working on not being that person. I want to catch myself before I try manipulating someone. I want to find ways to express my ideas/needs/wants without trying to convince someone using their weakness to get it.

I’m noticing that taking this route often leads the other direction. I don’t get what I want and find myself catering to someone else’s desires. In the moment it stinks because you kinda want to go back to your manipulating ways but later I notice that God comes through for me. I get what I initially wanted in one form or another.

I trying to keep myself from having ulterior motives. I’m not 100% good at it but my goal is to keep trying. To keep working on treating people how I want to be treated.

The next book on my queue is: Tactical Influence: A Practical Approach to Increase Your Influence and Leadership Skills.

He’s a good God

As a child, I knew nothing about the Lord. All I knew was that God was Holy, untouchable and judgmental. These qualities are obviously not true but why did my innocence lean towards that direction? 

I can admit the people I surrounded myself with didn’t quite have it right either. We all went to church and it seems like we had to walk a certain way to be considered a true Christian. 

So many rules and so many obstacles to feel worthy of God’s forgives kinda forces one to quit. At the end, we can’t meet such a high standard. 

I learned the hard way that God is good. I finally realized how good He was when I recognized how bad I was. Rock bottom opened my eyes to a forgiving Father. When there is no where else to turn with your sins, God is waiting with open arms. 

The key is to remember, God wants us ALL to make it to heaven. Don’t let the lack of knowledge keep you down and rob you of a peaceful, joyful life. 

Hosea 4:6 My people perish or lack of knowledge. 

https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Hosea+4%3A6&version=KJV