Good Friends Refuse to Mind Their Business

I’m normally that friend that if you’re going through something, I’ll leave you alone about it. I don’t believe in forcing myself in places that I don’t belong. I always care deeply for my friends but I also want to respect others and their personal problems. If someone NEEDED me to know, they’d tell me right off the bat right?

Well, apparently I’m WRONG! I found myself one day breaking down the wall my friend built because I wouldn’t allow her to make me mind my business. “I love you and I NEED to know whats going on”. 2 of my closest friends did this to me recently. “So you think I’m going to sit here and let you figure it out on your own.?” Heckkkkk no!

When I first got married, the adults in my life kept quiet every time there was an issue with my husband and I. They said it wasn’t their place to involve themselves and when I think about it today, I get mad. You could have helped me be a better wife. You could have given me advice. Instead you left us behind to rot.

That memory is what drives me to drive my buddies crazy. I’ll ask my friend, “Why do you seem upset at your husband? What’s going on?”. “Ohhh nothing. I’ll get over it.”

No, you don’t need to just get over it. You don’t need to go through this alone. Let’s discuss. Let’s figure out a way to make it better.

Don’t use this method on people you barely know. This is useful for the strong friendships/ relationships in your life. Be mindful of the people who fight to know your business just to manipulate you. Those are not real friends. Make sure your friend has proven their loyalty and integrity before you decide to trust them with your life.

The main word here is accountability. If I had the solutions to your stress and the experience in your problem, I am completely accountable for the result of your battle. If you lose, I lose.

Learning to Spot Manipulators

The more I try to learn on the topic of manipulation, the more sad I become. I’m almost done listening to a book called “Manipulation. Learning to Spot Manipulative People – Improve Emotional Intelligence Against Persuasion Tactics” by Jeff Tierney. The Author covers many topics including the tactics used by savvy manipulators. What makes me sad is that I’m realizing how many times per day someone attempts to manipulate me. Whats more sad is that these people don’t even know they are doing it.

Are we so prone to get our way that we don’t realize we are being shady to the people that we love? If I’m going to learn something reading this book, I’m choosing to learn on finding way NOT to manipulate people. I find it more stressing to spend my days trying to spot said persuasion tactics. Instead, I plan on working on not being that person. I want to catch myself before I try manipulating someone. I want to find ways to express my ideas/needs/wants without trying to convince someone using their weakness to get it.

I’m noticing that taking this route often leads the other direction. I don’t get what I want and find myself catering to someone else’s desires. In the moment it stinks because you kinda want to go back to your manipulating ways but later I notice that God comes through for me. I get what I initially wanted in one form or another.

I trying to keep myself from having ulterior motives. I’m not 100% good at it but my goal is to keep trying. To keep working on treating people how I want to be treated.

The next book on my queue is: Tactical Influence: A Practical Approach to Increase Your Influence and Leadership Skills.

I can tell

I can tell when someone is pretending to be kind to me.

I can tell when someone is bragging about their success but disguises it with humility.

I can tell when someone is making an effort to prove that they’re better than me.

I can tell

So i let them speak

I play along

I act naive

Because the more they do it, the sillier they look and that’s amusing to me.

Anointing 

Anointing,
The word seemed so unclear to me but now that I’m starting to see a strong anointing flowing over my life, I’m getting a clearer picture of the power of Your anointing.
When God has anointed you to accomplish something according to His will, He will place everything that is needed right in front of you to make it come to pass. People will begin to find favor in you. God will start to remove people from your life that hold you back and God will start taking you out of situations that drag you to a place where you could start focusing on that task you are anointed to accomplish.
Timing is everything. Doors don’t begin to open until the time is right. People’s hearts won’t start moving in your favor until HIS TIME IS RIGHT. I can’t explain in words how God is moving for me. All I can say is that HE IS and every single thing He promised me is coming to pass.
I’ve also been able to witness an anointing coming to a close. I’ve had a whole lot of energy and capacity to fulfil ministerial duties and suddenly hear God say, “It’s time to go to the next level”. Doors begin to close and new doors swing open. 
I’m genuinely thankful for Your faithfulness oh God! You said it, and I’m witnessing it firsthand coming together for me. Please remind me to be grateful even during the setbacks. Please help me be faithful in putting The Kingdom first and most of all, please continue to guide me so that one day I could testify of how great You are.
 

3 Realms of the Prophetic

Sermon by Pastor Bernard Greene

3 Realms of the prophetic

1st: Realm of understanding

  • When God speaks directly without interpretation.
  • Forth telling
  • You couldn’t argue what God said.

2nd: Realm of consciousness

  • When prophecy speaks to the Mind, emotion and what’s hidden.
  • When prophecy reaches the “Soulish realm”. Intent and motives are also spoken to.

3rd: Realm of the Supernatural- The most potent

  • Foretelling: To God, prophecy is not considered “future” but truth.
  • Faith makes the future real to us NOW.
  • Supernatural prophecy is when God speaks to the impossible.

Prophecy- The word of the Lord translated to us.

How do you receive your prophetic word? Where does your seed fall?

  • Highlight: We don’t control the seed; we determine how the seed falls.
  1. On the wayside? Where the birds came and ate it?
  2. Shallow ground? Sprang up quickly and scorched due to lack of roots?
  3. Among thorns? Grew up and choked?
  4. Good ground? Where it produces a crop a hundred, sixty or thirty times what was sown.

Reference: Matthew 13